An Open Letter from Your Competitive Softball Coach



To my players and parents,

Let me start by saying, I love you all. It is such a pleasure to be your coach on a daily basis. I can’t tell you how many hours go into conversations and thoughts about your progress, positivity, good nature, and future. I’m so grateful to share my passion for the game, my experience, and my time with you.

I can’t wait to watch you go off to college and compete at a higher level. I am, and will continue to be, so proud. Your goals will come to fruition in the next few months. But before we go any further, I have to make something clear.

I cannot do your recruiting for you, and here’s why:

  1. I don’t have time. Recruiting is full-time job. Countless hours are devoted to researching schools; identifying coach contact information; writing emails and follow-up emails; and shooting, logging, and editing skills videos. And we’re not talking about prep-time to make you a better athlete! I do not have the time to be in control for you.
  2. I don’t know your goals. I see the type of player you are on the field, and I have a good idea what type of student you are in the classroom. Even with that insight, there’s no way for me to know all the details of what you’re looking for in a college program. It would be a disservice to assume I know what you desire in a college and athletic experience, so how could I possibly take charge in your process? You are the ones who make the final decision; you are the ones who have to live with the consequences of that decision, good and bad. You need to be invested in that.
  3. College coaches want to hear from you. I had an awesome college experience and have been fortunate to make some good connections. I don’t know if those connections are what you need. I’ll do my best; I’ll reach out and put in a good word to get your foot in the door with coaches who trust me. At the end of the day, though, you are the one they have to recruit.
  4. I don’t know what you need. Every family’s recruiting experience is different, whether you are a top-tier athlete on an all-world team, or a middle-of-the-pack athlete who knows sports can help pay for your education. Every family has a different goal in this process, and you need to know what that goal is and develop your own plan to make it happen. Be in control of the outcome.

I’m going to do whatever I can to help you navigate these murky recruiting waters successfully. If you continue to be a great teammate, a hard worker, and someone I’d be proud to introduce to my connections, I will do so.

Don’t let me be your only outlet to success.

I’m human. I neglect or miss emails. I have a hard time getting back to voicemails in a timely matter. I’m trying to make time with my own family, and I don’t want your recruiting to be hindered because of that. Know that I will be here to give recommendations, guidance, and any support necessary, but I can’t make these goals happen for you.

I love watching you play.

I love watching you develop into a better person on the field and in the classroom. Allow me to focus on helping you become the best athlete and citizen you can possibly be, so that when the time comes, you’re ready.

If you have any questions, just ask me. I’ll see you at practice on Saturday.


Coach Mallory

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